DIlma, coração valente, para a esperança vencer o medo.
When I was 12 boys slid their hand up my thigh and slapped my butt. I smiled and took it because I didn’t know it was okay to say stop. I didn’t know that I could say no. So, when the principal calls telling me my daughter is suspended for punching a boy who wouldn’t stop touching her, I will cook her favorite meals. When she tells me how she cursed at the boy who wouldn’t move his hands off her knee even though she asked him to, I will smile and pull out her favorite movie to watch together. I will celebrate the fact that she accepts her body as her own and knows she has the right to say no. I never want my daughter to think her body belongs to men, because it is her own and my god should she be proud. I will teach her it’s more than okay to say stop, something I wish I had known when I was that age.
I’m so excited and I just can’t hide it…
I feel that assuming a non-conforming kid is automatically transexual actually reinforces the idea of a solid, inherent gender binarity instead of breaking it. If you’re a boy and you like “girl stuff” like skirts and dolls and hair accessories, does it mean you’re actually a girl? Or does it just mean that associations between gender and types of clothing and gendered play are taught instead of inherent? A non-conforming kid might end up being trans, or not. They might end-up being gay, which was my case. Or they might end up just being non-conforming. Non-conformity doesn’t mean you need a new gender. It means the whole idea of gender is broken as fuck.
wow The Onion is dropping a lot of truth for a work of satire